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Love or Respect? December 21, 2008

Filed under: family,relationships — Amy @ 13:54

A national survey asked 400 men which they would prefer to indure?

  • to be left alone and unloved in the world
  • to feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone

The answer seemed so obvious to me.  It took me no thinking time at all.  I want to be loved!  Above everything else, I would choose love over respect.

74% of the men said that if they were forced to choose, they would prefer being alone and unloved.  Can respect be that big of a thing to men?

What would you choose, if forced?  What would your husband or boyfriend choose?

Love and Respect is the name of the book that our Sunday morning class is reading.  The author, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, states that a woman’s highest need is love and a man’s highest need is respect.  All people need love and respect, but one is the trump card.  Do you think the trump card is different for each sex?

The book says, “For these men, the greater negative experience for their souls to endure would be to feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone.”

What do you think?


3 Responses to “Love or Respect?”

  1. Caryn Henniger Says:

    I read this book while working out at the gym, killing two birds with one stone. 🙂 How amazing it was to me to realize that I had been disrespecting my husband without even noticing. This book helped open my eyes to see my husband how God sees him. I hope you all have a great class.
    p.s. Amy, thanks for putting me on the list even though we’re all the way in South Carolina. I love you ladies!

  2. amyadair Says:

    Precious px! So glad you jumped in. We miss you, too! It can be quite a jolt to realize it is so easy to show disrespect to our husbands. I guess coupled with that is the realization that disrespect can so easily creep into my heart.

  3. Stephanie Says:

    I wonder how much personality-type plays in which one of these either sex would choose?

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