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The Necklace by Cheryl Jarvis January 16, 2009

Filed under: Books and Movies — Amy @ 05:04
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necklaceIn September of 2004, thirteen women went together to buy a 15.24 carat diamond necklace.  Cheryl Jarvis wrote a book chronicling their experiment.

Each chapter is a mini biography about one of the women and her experiences with the necklace. 

Some favorite excerpts:

 “Before meeting these women, I lived in a world where I wasn’t worthy, wasn’t good enough.  It’s the story I’d told myself all my life.  These women taught me that it was just a story, a story I’d told myself because I was afraid.  My only fear now is that I will be a disappointment to myself, that I’ll get to the end of my life and know I didn’t take advantage of everything that was given me.  Before Jewelia (the necklace’s name…) I thought, ‘ I wonder what will happen to me?’  Now I think, ‘I wonder what I’ll do next?’  For the first time, I’m composing my life.”

I love that line….I’m composing my life.

When I was taking counseling classes, this was a view that was helpful for those who had been in abusive situations, especially adults who had been abused as children.  It was important for them to realize that someone else had written their story for them when they were a child, but now they were writing their own story.  They were now in control of their story.  

Another line from the book that resonated with me:

“In this safe community of women, each voice grew more authentic.”  

What a beautiful concept…a safe community of women.  The confidence that we enable in each other through acceptance and love can cause personal growth that is unlikely to occur outside a “safe community”.

Not a great piece of literature, but a fun read with some poignant moments.  

What are you reading?


Old Friends December 31, 2008

Filed under: Books and Movies,relationships,Scripture — Amy @ 05:39

From The Friday Night Knitting Club by Kate Jacobs:images-3

The thing is that when you are young, you always think you’ll meet all sorts of wonderful people, that drifting apart and losing friends is natural.  You don’t worry, at first, about the friends you leave behind.  But as you get older, it gets harder to build friendships.  Too many defenses, too little opportunity.  You get busy.  And by the time you’ve lost the dearest best friend you’ve ever had, years have gone by and you’re mature enough to be embarrassed by your attitude and, frankly, by your arrogance.


Jenny, Anita, Lisa and I met at the Dixie Cafe last weekend.  A reunion of sorts.  We grew up together in Searcy and try to get together whenever Anita comes back from Houston.  I look forward to being with these women.  The comfort of being with people who know me and have known me for so long and still accept me.  I love it.

My life is easier and more fulfilling because of my friends.  In the church, the Lord has provided us with friends.  He has commanded us to love each other and care for each other.

Gal 6:2…Carry one another’s burdens…

Do you still keep in touch with old friends?  Do you have friends now that you are determined to stay in touch with?  Have you lost touch with a friend that you dearly miss?